Why Women Like Men With The Bad Boy Edge ~by Secret L.A. Reader

First, I never dreamed I would submit an article to "Legal Pub." But I got hooked on this site and I really am tired of being asked by men, "Why don't you ever give a nice guy a chance?" So from here on out, L.P., I am just going to refer the inquisitive to your site.

Why are most of us women not attracted to "nice guys?" Get a clue! In my observation, most "nice" guys are not as nice as they like to think. In fact, the majority of "nice guys" are whiny, close-minded, judgmental, spineless, controlling, and weak. Most of us independent women don't find such traits to be "nice" or "attractive." The type of man most of my peers are attracted to have the following traits: decisive, action oriented, determined, aggressive, intelligent and successful. Unfortunately sometimes those traits also come with a "liar" and a "cheat" attached. But who can say no if you are attracted to them?

"Nice guys" tend to be needy and boring. I hate boring. A person succeeds at dating when you give the opposite sex what they truly want. Most women want a man who will stand strong and remain in control of himself. Young women may want an OCCASIONAL COMPANION who wants to have fun. But they almost universally do not desire some full time clinging, whining snivelling leach. Codependency is not a turn on, guys! Young women want EXCITEMENT. We want to have fun with impulsive, thrill seekers that have the "player's edge." Males that exude testosterone inspire desire and that leads to passion. Games and lies are just sometimes an unfortunate part of the wild ride.

"Nice guys" project neediness. They create an impression that they need a mother rather than a lover. Men that go out of their way to please a women will be used and soon rejected. In sum, once a man allows a woman to have the upper hand in the relationship, she loses respect for him. Once respect is gone, sexual attraction fades quickly. The man gets kicked into "The Friend Zone" and from there fellows, it is terminal.

Want a woman? Be the guy that never allows a woman to control him in any way. A good relationship evolves only after attraction. Once trust and decisions making protocols develop over time, only than is marriage an appropriate topic. Than the rules of the partnership can be discussed and negotiated before any permanent union. Fortunately for a few of you nice guys, women's taste in men mature as women age. As choices in lifestyle, dress, and career change, so does the type of partner that a mature woman seeks. Over time, the woman transitions and begins to look for a husband and father. More emphasis is placed on honesty, work ethic, family values, and responsibility. Don't be confused, women still don't want a weak, whiny, judgmental, superior acting man. It's just that a mature woman is willing to compromise some of the bad boy traits in exchange for stability.

But short of marriage, why SHOULD any woman be attracted to a "nice" guy? Before I started reading this forum, I thought there must be some sort of law about it or why would people discuss "nice guys" on Legal Pub? Well I can't find a legal statute any where, so why should I be treated like a criminal just because I prefer thrill seeking, impulsive men that the public labels as "bad boys?" Sometimes, guys, I like what I like and that simply is not most of you. And before you condemn me, I have my own career, my own money and even more importantly, I am attracted to "MARRIAGE STRIKE" guys.